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A long-running personal blog shared by two authors with completely different approaches to life. And a lot of large, beautiful photographs of dogs and nature and places we've traveled to. Rich in commentary and irreverant in style. 

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We started blogging a long time ago. Our work hours never aligned with recommended psychotherapists and we needed to get our thoughts out. We are great friends, total opposites and long-time housemates. This was a way to communicate. With each other. With strangers. With consumer marketers. With sub-par meteorologists. With distant friends who wanted to see pictures of stuff we were up to.

This is the place. Our bucket of thoughts to share. You are welcome. 
(We realize that most of you are here for the dog pictures.)

Are you suffering from the False Consensus Effect?

Healey

Recently, while reading an article in Modern Headcase Magazine, I stumbled upon a term that caught my attention. It is the “False-Consensus Effect.”

I will resist the urge to ask you if you found the term as interesting as I did, as this would then lend itself as an ironic case study of the exact subject matter being contemplated. The term breaks down to mean that an individual has created a cognitive bias wherein they believe that their beliefs, values, habits and perspectives are shared by those in society who are considered ‘normal.’ And that this modeling is done to inflate one's’ own self esteem.

This of course makes us all look like Monkeys playing dress up for a tea party with no real beverages.

So, after trying to fit this term into multiple mid-meeting conversations naturally (it doesn’t arrive naturally and people stop verbally communicating to give you distinctly choreographed facial expressions and intentionally aggressive silence packages.) So after that I just turned to the internet to find out what people think is “Normal.”

To save you the time  - I will tell you that the Huffington Post has been after this story for quite a while. Their crack reporters have created no less than 16 different articles dedicated to sleuthing out whether you, your children or the man you are sleeping with is ‘normal.’ I do wonder how other people arrive at these articles.

I spoke to Yenny about the “who is really Normal’ concept and she immediately produced a way to gather analytics on the situation. (Who is surprised by that? Nobody, that’s who.)  

Let me introduce you to the Type Finder, by Truity. (Who ever the hell they are.)

TRUITY: The Type Finder Evaluation

Instead of everyone taking the test and then revealing “who they were” we, my son, Yenny and I, decided to take the test in an open forum. In this way we could yell out opinions about how the others were completely LYING about their own personality traits. It made the test taking MUCH more interesting.

Question - “Are you Supportive or Logical?”
Me - “Logical.”
Group - “Bullshit you are a total Supportive pushover. Especially with old people.”

Question - “Are you Sensitive or Tough?”
Yenny - “Tough.”
Group - (Laughter.)

Question- “Are you Introspective or Talkative?”
Seamus - “What does Introspective mean?”
Group - “It doesn’t matter... just say Talkative. You are Talkative.”

So it turns out that this is the BEST way to take this test.

Yenny now has points towards being an Extrovert. My son is set for his entry exam into some liberal leaning Theater Arts College and I am complete buckshot peppering the quadrant scale. Except for the fact that I definitely have FEELINGS. I have FEELINGS.

We liked taking the test so much (or we were just too comfortable laying all over the room) that we also took the test for the dog. Buford is the personality equivalent of Bill Murray. This was news to no one.

So to re-cap, no one is "normal." But I insist that the other end of the scale is totally defensible and there are definitely people who are CRAZY.

(Specifically the 3 men who are sitting next to me at Houlihan's here as I write this who are all yelling about how crazy women for caring about their shoes. All this ranting while they EACH have an inactive Bluetooth headset nested on to their heads. Self-important Moron jewelry.)

I digress...

Do us a favor and take the test and let us know what your results say. We are dying to know more about the people we know.